It seems to be the new normal; people fall in love (so they think) they get married, grow tired and weary of each other and get divorced. So much for the better or worse part of the vows! It makes me want to ask the quest, Why Get Married! OK, I will ask the question, Why in the world would any one want marriage these days?
I think it’s a valid question to ask, given that many people find it just beautiful to be on their second, third or fourth trip down the aisle. At what point do we stop making the divorce lawyers wealthy and stop using love as the excuse or reason for marriage? One moment we’re in love, the next someone is moving out or sleeping on the couch. What’s the motivation for committing to someone these days? If the reason is to have the exclusive right to someone, say so. It’s pretty selfish (in my opinion), to wed someone, because you don’t want them to get away or you want them all to your self.
Find Yourself a Christian Man or Woman
I’m sure, that no one enters marriage, contemplating divorce. Oh wait, this is 2019, we have prenuptial! I guess there is nothing wrong with preparing for the UN-expected or the inevitable. It seems that no one is immune to what follows marriage, and I don’t mean death. Sure, you will have your problems, your challenges and crisis they will test the very fabric of your commitment, and most fail. Society tells you, “you don’t have to stand for it”, or “You can do bad all by your self” While women are being strong, independent and are in no need of a man, I wonder what they think of their newly declared strength and independence when they return to an empty house. I can tell you what some men may feel after being freed from a relationship of being used or a marriage of convenience, its would probably sound like a sound bite from a Martin Luther King speech; “Free At Last, Free At Last! Thank God Almighty, I’m Free at Last!” The older folks would say, “you need to find yourself a good Christian man/woman.” Unfortunately, that would be next to impossible because they to fall in Love, Get Married and eventually divorced.
And They Lived Happily Ever After.
Greeting cards and weddings I think are the two biggest money making industries, bilking millions from men and women. Men are programmed to not only buy gifts and flowers on holidays, but they dam sure better buy a card! Men are bombarded with “Don’t forget her, on that special day” commercials and somewhere, some woman will spend more than $5,000 on the wedding dress of her dreams, that she will wear only once, or twice, or; well you get the picture. The potential wife started her life as a daddy’s little princess and she has now grown into a diva or a queen looking for her king or loyal subject.
Still dreaming for the day when Mr. Right will rescue her from a mundane existence of “I’m ready to settle down”. Settling down seems to be the right thing for anyone who is tired of trying everything else that didn’t work. I remember a TV commercial, where a woman, a student at a nursing school, was seemingly proude of the following: ” I had two kids, got married, then divorced, If I can go to school to better myself, so can you” How sad I thought, not that she was going to school, but in the order that her life played on. Many fairy tails have the following ending; ” and they lived
Look At The Prize I Won At The Fair
Everybody likes to win or at least win something. Isn’t that how we feel when we’ve managed to snag, catch or land that person who looks good on our are or riding in our car. What a thrill to bring him or her to church with us just so “THEY” can see what a hunk, hottie, diva that I’m with. Sounds like a read, out of a teenage romance novel, but this is what adults will do. It’s all about what it looks like, and nobody wants to look lonely, or like they’ve lost out. We want exclusive access to someone that perhaps we shouldn’t be with or we want them committed, accessible and available to only us when there is no commitment from you. Sounds like the perfect ingredients for falling in Love, Getting Married and then Divorced.
Going Against The Grain